19. Secure or Insecure

Two main characteristics must be considered when speaking of security and insecurity.

“Security” is when you are sure of things, – yourself, others, situations, facts, and your loves. You usually have an extroverted personality and a sense of safety and confidence.

“Insecurity” is uncertainty about yourself and others. You are not sure of things, situations, facts, your loves. You are usually shy and have an introverted personality.

Security leads to: Confidence, understanding and peace, which leads to: Freedom from fear, ability to forgive, and an extroverted personality.

Insecurity leads to: Jealousy, awkwardness, quietness and scared feelings, which lead to: Self-consciousness, frustration, inability to forgive and an introverted personality.

To attain a sense of security, you must exercise the following, daily:

(1.) I am someone special, even if no one else thinks so. I believe it.

(2.) I am unique. I have different ideas, notions, feelings and attitudes.

(3.) I cannot be everything to any one person.

(4.) It is more important to have a little of someone than to have nothing at all.

(5.) I can and will trust others to the extent that I trust myself.

(6.) I can and will give myself totally to others and trust them explicitly.

(7.) I will not assume anything.

(8.) I will not pry or be overcurious of any situation that might lead to embarrassment for my friend.

(9.) I can and will respect my friend’s rights to be an individual first, and allow them to be what they want to be.

NOTE: The opposite feelings of these set forth above are features of insecurity.