21. Whimp or Wonder?

The definition of “wonder” is that which arouses awe, astonishment, surprise or admiration. A marvel. To be filled with awe? A monumental human creation regarded with awe.

Sometimes the words we dread are the words we need to hear the most in our lives. For some reason, we hate to hear the words we are about to discuss. I think I know why we hate these words. We have been taught from birth to think that the words mean the opposite of what I would like to teach you.

We need to begin to recondition our minds and relearn the meanings of these words. We are afraid to “serve” because we think it belittles us and makes us slaves. It’s not “classy” to serve. We will rethink this word, “serve.”

We hate to ask for “help.” We are stubborn by nature and refuse to ask for help. We feel it is a sign of weakness. Actually, it takes strength to ask for help. Most successful men are successful because they asked for help, and someone helped them.

The word “control” makes us feel trapped. We want freedom. Control has very little to do with freedom. We must realize that we are controlled from birth, like it or not. We must make the best of it.

If control is meant to destroy or to hold back and prevent growth, then it is bad. Most control, however, is designed to keep order, and we must have order. Our lives must be disciplined. Let’s look at these words and their correct meanings:

To serve: To find self-esteem. To feel needed. To provide a service; to be useful.

To help. To ask for help and receive it is to feel gratification. To give help is to know gratification – the good feeling of helping, of purpose and sharing.

To control. To yield to order, know that order is good. To believe that God is good and know that God is the author of order. (Just look around at His creation to know this is true.)

Without using these words properly in your life, you will become a whimp. Spell out the word, and see what you get:

W: Whine, crybaby
H: Helpless
I: Instant gratification seeker – inferiority complex
M: Mindless (no mind of your own)
P: Pride (lacking)

Are you a “whimp” or a “wonder?” You choose which it will be. Whimps constantly cry about hard luck, “poor me,” have no backbone and are not sure of themselves. They seek gratification in drugs, alcohol and anything else they can find. They feel “wonder” only as long as the drugs last, and then they are right back to being a whimp.

Be a “wonder.” Be in awe of yourself, in how god chose you, and how you discover your new potential each day. Spell out the word, and see the difference:

W: Willing to be of help to someone, to listen, to learn and to serve.
O: Obedient to God in order to find out your real purpose in life and follow your dreams.
N: Negotiable, to come to terms with others, reach an agreement.
D: Deliver and be rescued from bondage, danger or evil of any kind: Set free from mojos, insecurity, drugs, alcohol, jealousy, whimpy ideas.
E: Energetic, on the move, motivated. To get a supply of energy, eat the right foods. You are useless without energy. Life is energy; use it positively.
R: Responsibility for who and what you are. No one else can make you anything you don’t want to be. You are responsible for your own actions. Be accountable for what you do with your talents. Be successful.

When you say and truly feel that you are happy with you, that you like being you, then you will gain self-esteem and become successful. You will become successful. You will become a “wonder,” not a “whimp,” Whimps are stepped on; wonders are looked up to as role models.

You decide what you want to be. As for me, I choose to become a positive role model. I am a “wonder.” Are you?