7. Dating, Part II

Love “at first sight” seldom lasts. Love needs to develop. You really need to work at it. As quickly as you “fall in love,” you can “fall out of love.”

It’s okay not to marry or have a relationship. It’s not for everyone. Rid yourself of the guilt that you are “supposed” to get married, that it’s normal and that you are “weird” if you don’t get married. Paul tells us in the Scriptures that it’s okay not to get married, as long as we are not immoral. (I Cor. 7).

If marriage can be made a part of your plan and career, then go for it. Don’t be fooled, though. Things that look okay at the beginning may not end up that way.

Plan your future. Set your goals and go for them. You can make it, but you must first have a dream. If you can find someone with whom to share those dreams and goals, then you are blessed.

Stop looking for love in all the wrong places. We are constantly looking for fulfillment, – searching for peace of mind and contentment We cannot find that in a man or a woman; only in Jesus. He said, “Come to Me if you’re heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.”

Your search for that connection (your spirit connecting with your Creator’s spirit) will finally be achieved when you give up your restlessness.

Give up your constant searching for love, – that yearning – and come to Jesus with it all. He will give you rest. He will ease that restless feeling and make you complete. He will connect you with your Creator, God, – my Father and yours.

Whatever your choice will be, just remember there is a consequence. You must pay a price. You must keep your commitment to the plan and goal.

God has allowed you to choose with your own free will. You are His highest creation. You have been placed over all God’s other creatures. You are important. You are somebody.

If you choose correctly (within God’s will), the consequence will be uplifting and beneficial. You will be prepared, motivated, stronger. It will build your character.

If you choose the wrong way (and you do know right from wrong), the consequences are more severe. If you cannot be responsible for your actions, then you must be ready to endure the consequences.